Happiness has always been one of my most discussed subjects. It intrigues me a lot. Want to know what I’ve discovered so far? I know you probably don’t, but I’m going to tell you anyway, so take a seat, please.

Happiness is never something that comes from the outside. It doesn’t come with a new car, a girlfriend, or a big house. It may not even come from the family you’ve created for this very purpose.
It doesn’t depend on your neighbour, your husband, your parents, your kids, your house, or the money you make and the places you visit.
You can certainly improve your state of mind by being mindful of what you let in. But the thing is… if you go through life thinking that life itself or people owe you a certain kind of treatment, you might get old and bitter before you even realise it.
No one owes you anything, you spoiled child. It’s on you.

So, if you want a good relationship with someone, maybe it’s a good idea to first try and be independent.
Aaaand being independent doesn’t necessarily mean you make your own money and do whatever you want, but rather, being okay with yourself. With the way you think, look, with your preferences, personality, rhythm, and needs.
Being okay with being by yourself—maybe even enjoying it… I think that’s the foundation, if you will, of becoming a bigger person.

And you know what? It may mean you’ll get less triggered by the people in your life. People who, I assure you, are not villains, but people just like you and me; with their own battles, traumas, and confusions.
We are all hurt, and what can be seen from the outside is just our—sometimes faulty—way of coping with our experiences or trauma.

Be patient and kind, please. But start with yourself.